Now where were we? Ah yes, let's talk about sex and the sexes. Yesterday while I was on Twitter, now called X, I had an epiphany about my own relationships with men and women. Before comedy, I was always slow to communicate or interact with new people. I'm still that way most of time but now I act on impulse when I get a good vibe much faster than my earlier years.
I have two sisters. One has been my arch-enemy since 6 months old according to my baby book. When my mom wrote my first word, she made very detailed and excited notes that I began speaking with whole phrases and never "baby talk". My very first sentence was "Where's Aaron?". Aaron is my father's name. I always thought it was weird I didn't say "where's daddy?" and made a conscious choice to use his government name (lol). Now that I'm a fully grown adult and know more of my family business, I realized I called a spade a spade at 6 months. I'm ahead of my time for sure. My second sentence was "Shut Up Tracy". Tracy is the middle of my older sister. We were informal in my house. Everyone was called by either their middle name or nickname. We rarely ever called each other by our first names - except me calling my dad, Aaron. The girls I ended up hanging out with had the exact same interests as me which is pretty natural for most people. In my early life basketball was a huge interest. When I hung out with girls, sometimes we talked stats about players but MOSTLY we talked about our favorite NBA players because we thought they were cute - the exception was Michael Jordan. He was everyone's favorite player because at the time he was the best player the NBA had ever seen and played for our home team. When I hung out with boys, it was usually because we laughed frequently or had some time of good time previously - i.e. We played basketball or running bases together and it was fun, competitive and had lots of funny banter. With the boys, we frequently talked about the stats, the plays, whose playing style they most wanted to emulate and NO TALK about which girls they thought were cute until MUCH LATER. These early years showed me something I didn't know would be an important trend when we were all adults. It showed me the difference in how men and women mentally sort what's important. When I think back on many conversations I've held with males and females throughout life and conversations I've observed in passing. Men are really wired to "get to the point" in mostly all areas of their lives EXCEPT their feelings. It just takes them longer to really process what they want and WHY they want it. Women on the other hand lead with their feelings. Even if she is a cold and calculating woman, there is an ocean of emotion laying dormant under that facade that she clings tightly to and responds to her environment. Women being perceived as the softer species are welcomed and allowed to respond to life from a place of emotion. Men were not previously encouraged to do so and they got the memo early that life still has to go on outside of what they feel. It leads them to put more time and energy into being productive and goal-oriented. If you catch a guy early enough in his dating experience, he could simply want something just because it feels good and they said yes. He didn't really put much thought into WHY he wanted it outside of the fact that something made him feel good and he avoided rejection (their worse fear). So a guy is like to stay on one path because it's comfortable and it fulfills a need. He's good after that. Women are not so clear cut in dating. I believe all people crave validation in their dating life, yet I think women spend more time focused on "being right" in the choices they make. Women do this because they wanna go back to some woman group or maybe just their mom, aunts and other relatives and feel like they have "a good life cause they chose correctly". This is what sparks more women-women relationships cause they feel "accepted and on the same page as whoever they hang with" thus they feel validated that "they are right". Most men don't entertain partners caring that much about what others think. Once again, it comes back to if he LIKES what he's getting or feeling. Other times, he may feel a sense of obligation or loyalty to someone and that locks-in his choices and reasoning. OF COURSE there are anomalies and outliers for both sexes but if you ever just sat back and watched, you will DEFINITELY see lots of these patterns. So yesterday, I'm on twitter joking about male aloofness. I end up on this gem-filled comedic rant about the differences between men and women that I used to tell onstage. I had the epiphany that one of the reasons I prefer men as friends and partners is because despite their aloofness and lack of empathy, they are generally more productive and solution-oriented than women. I joked about how women have a higher percentage rate of telling you a bunch of useless information that is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS OR THEIRS. In defense of women, I honestly think you learn lots of useful life and domestic skills from them. However, socially women can be bigger emotional terrorists than men because they constantly need to compare themselves to others to convince themselves they have a good life. Men don't need that. If his basic needs are met and he is comfortable with his bank account he is a happy camper. Usually when he isn't a happy camper, it's because he is not comfortable with his bank account. Men are that simple! Simple is refreshing! As Communications major, I know that the lack of communication or a misread in communication can tear apart the strongest bonds and entire communities. So YOUR SUNDAY TAKEAWAY THIS WEEK is to get your Henry David Thoreau on and "SIMPLIFY". Life really is simple. We are born, we meet people and learn who they are and what they mean to us. We accomplish things as we journey through this life and its up to us to decide or care if we want those accomplishments to be noteworthy within the next 100 years or not. Then eventually, after we have made the decision to make certain accomplishments and contributions, we chose a companion or we decide to be a solo adventurer through this journey called life. When our contract on this realm is complete with our creator, we either journey back to our manufacturer and enjoy streets paved with gold, never-ending dancing and singing, also reuniting with loved ones we met on this earthly realm; OR we journey to the destruction incinerator. Think about it things that have zero human abilities or qualities eventually get destroyed and discarded OR they get preserved and restored throughout time. Here's something to think about MOUNT RUSHMORE has survived and been restored to last/survive the next 100 years and has already OUTLIVED the majority of humans alive RIGHT NOW! However, there is NOT A TRACE of 8-track or CASSETTE PLAYERS ON EARTH! 8-track and cassette players was an invention that was used and enjoyed during THIS LIFETIME by people alive today and what happened to all those devices? They got destroyed and discontinued. They all have been replaced with digital technology and will not be remembered or recognized in 100 years unless Hollywood wants to make a movie about them. We all got choices in life and once we decide what we want and commit to it, we can make it happen! If we believe in an afterlife, we make choices during life to be put in a position to enjoy it. If we don't believe in an after life, we don't make the choices to be in position to enjoy an afterlife and accept that deletion and decay is our fate just like an 8-track or cassette player. YOU are more powerful than you think. No matter what's going on around you, everyone else is busy trying to decide if they want to be a Mount Rushmore or an 8track/Cassette Player when they reach the end of their life. So take charge of your life with bold decision making rooted in joy! When all else fails, KEEP IT SIMPLE and make sure you laugh today:) Love, -Your favorite behavioral analyst comedian and happiness cheerleader, AaronaTheVirgo
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Aarona Creates Safe Spaces For Sanity:)So starting today, I'm launching A NEW BLOG with A NEW FOCUS! Since I AM and always HAVE BEEN a Happiness Cheerleader for myself and others. I'm getting back into that bag because after surviving trauma after trauma and disappointments galore, I've concluded I only wanna rock and roll with people who are healed and happy. You know the old saying "if you can't find that person, BE THAT PERSON".
I've spent 40 years people watching and analyzing their behavior. During high school, it lead me to pursuing a Psychology degree from a university. After actually going to college, I changed my major to Broadcast Journalism within the first two weeks cause I saw Psychology is really just a discipline of observing and attaching titles to what you've observed. I decided if I wanted college to be purposeful, it's better I walk out the door with a skill or set of skills and my mother threatened me about coming home with an acting degree. So I did what any new adult would do, I appeased my mom but not pursuing acting but I put myself in the position to learn technical and useful information in a field that involved acting and script reading - radio/television production. After having my life RAMSHACKED by obssessive, tyrannical type of people (smh) I just wanna get back to being awesome and loving life while creating financial freedom for myself. So, I'm back to the root of how and WHY I got on this journey to make people laugh in the first place - I find misery intolerable and pain very unfortunate. Over the years, I learned firsthand that comedy and laughter is the antidote. After a spiritual awakening, I began to see people on a level different from the way I saw them before my mom passed. It's lead me to be a fierce independent thinker because it expanded my awareness on how much people want to belong to SOMETHING regardless of what age they are. When you are young and rebellious and lack love in your life, you'll either run to gangs or religion. When you are more mature and wiser, you'll cling to ideals, economic interests or social boosters. Most people stay in that last group until they have an encounter with death or simply ponder their mortality. Once you ponder your own mortality, you really start asking the tough questions like "What is all of this for?" "Do I even enjoy what I do for work? Who I spend my time with? or is it just habit and programming?" That's when life gets FUN! So Buckle Up Folks, cause through this blog, I plan on creating NEW YouTube, TikTok and Twitter content (my handle on all three platforms is @aaronacreates like THIS SITE) for all the people who want witty inspiration on HOW TO stay sane in a crazy world! I'm combining 40 years of people watching and behavior analysis (why do people do what they do) with 14 ACTIVE YEARS of being a stand-up comedian with 26 years of writing experience (beginning as a published poet in 1998 to becoming a songwriter, a newspaper reporter, a TV script writer and by 2006 a Joke Writer) to BLOG little slices of heaven for your reading pleasure. [Insert heart emoji here]. Soooooo Subscribe! -Love, Your Favorite Behavior Analyst Comedian and Happiness Cheerleader AaronaTheVirgo My philosophy is The KEY to survival is re-invention and adaptation.
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